STRATEGIES
Strategies for Physical- The first thing you need to know is the strategy that most adults recommend. TELL AN ADULT YOU TRUST. You may feel scared to tell someone about it, but it's only going to get worse. If the bullying happens on the bus, then talk to the bus driver. If it happens between classes then walk with friends to your classes. Also most schools have clubs. Talk to the principal about a No Bullies club. Also if you are with lots of friends, bullies will not attack you. So make sure you hang out with friends as much as possible
Strategies for Verbal- In verbal bullying, you can be hurt emotionally. Make sure to talk to a guidance counselor. Don't be afraid to speak up. Also, this may be hard to believe but the bullying is happening because it's actually the victim's (Person who is being bullied) fault. If you don't believe this think back to your first day of school. Did you do something that day, like get mad or say something that makes you look weird? If you did, then that is why the bullies are snapping at you. Although sometimes it is the bully's fault. People can bully for many reasons. They can bully because they are bullied themselves, they can bully because they have a crush on you, and they can even bully because they are jealous of you. Whatever the reason it isn't right for you to be bullied by jealousy, love, or even because they are bullied themselves. You are your own person. If you know that you did something wrong on your first day then fine. Talk to an adult you trust. It will make you feel better if you get it off your chest.
Strategies for Social Alienation- Most of this happens in Gym so talk to a coach or gym teacher about it.
Strategies for Family bully- If your siblings are bullying you, talk to your parents about it, if your parents are bullying you talk to a teacher about it.
Cyber Bullying Strategies- There are several strategies for this one. If the bully is sending you these awful text messages or e-mails, then you need to save them and print them out. Then you have proof that these people were bullying you. Also a known fact on the internet. Never give out personal information online to a stranger. On Facebook, several people can be killed by befriending someone you don’t know and then wanting to meet them. Also never take pictures of yourself with your school uniform on and posting them. That let’s an internet predator know which school you go to. Internet predators or people who kidnap kids by finding them online. So only friend people you know on Facebook and MySpace. And don't forget, when you put something on the internet its there forever and there is no way to get it back. Never take nude photos of yourself. The moment you do this it ruins your life. It can affect your job, it can affect your reputation, it can even put you in jail. And if you are thinking about killing yourself you need to stop and think. Is this really necessary? How will my parents feel? and most importantly, Is it the right thing to do?
This is for parents to view if they suspect their child is being bullied.
If you know your child is being bullied then you need to know this exercise.
First pretend you are the bully
Then make your child practice saying "STOP!" In a firm tone.
A bully's main objective is to make the victim mad. If your child doesn't get mad then he or she will stop.
For kids to try
Another good strategy is to look at them and say "PFFFFFT!" And move your hand like you are shooing a fly.
Another one, similar to that one, is to act like you don't hear anything. Ignoring is one of the best strategies you can use.
Also most adults recommend walking away. I wouldn't be telling you this if I didn't know they worked.
Never listen to strategies that tell you to carry a blade. You may get the bullies off your back but you may also get arrested. Also no one will want to be your friend if you carry a blade. Trust me a blade is a total friend repellent. (It could also get you kicked out of school.)
If it's a verbal bully, take the insult as a compliment then that will confuse the bully. Also here's an example of another strategy. "Hey stupid how you been?" "Why are you so mean to me?" "Cause it's fun." "Why is it fun?" "Cause I like to see you cry." "Why do you like to see me cry?" "Cause it's fun." "Why is it fun?" "IT JUST IS!" "I know but why is it?" This is a strategy that works on a verbal bully or possibly physical. You annoy the bully until he or she gets so mad he or she quits. If he or she does it again then do the same thing over and over again. Here is a video with real kids, who know they have been bullied, and are trying to tell people how important it is. President Obama and Michelle Obama know how important it is as well.
Strategies for Verbal- In verbal bullying, you can be hurt emotionally. Make sure to talk to a guidance counselor. Don't be afraid to speak up. Also, this may be hard to believe but the bullying is happening because it's actually the victim's (Person who is being bullied) fault. If you don't believe this think back to your first day of school. Did you do something that day, like get mad or say something that makes you look weird? If you did, then that is why the bullies are snapping at you. Although sometimes it is the bully's fault. People can bully for many reasons. They can bully because they are bullied themselves, they can bully because they have a crush on you, and they can even bully because they are jealous of you. Whatever the reason it isn't right for you to be bullied by jealousy, love, or even because they are bullied themselves. You are your own person. If you know that you did something wrong on your first day then fine. Talk to an adult you trust. It will make you feel better if you get it off your chest.
Strategies for Social Alienation- Most of this happens in Gym so talk to a coach or gym teacher about it.
Strategies for Family bully- If your siblings are bullying you, talk to your parents about it, if your parents are bullying you talk to a teacher about it.
Cyber Bullying Strategies- There are several strategies for this one. If the bully is sending you these awful text messages or e-mails, then you need to save them and print them out. Then you have proof that these people were bullying you. Also a known fact on the internet. Never give out personal information online to a stranger. On Facebook, several people can be killed by befriending someone you don’t know and then wanting to meet them. Also never take pictures of yourself with your school uniform on and posting them. That let’s an internet predator know which school you go to. Internet predators or people who kidnap kids by finding them online. So only friend people you know on Facebook and MySpace. And don't forget, when you put something on the internet its there forever and there is no way to get it back. Never take nude photos of yourself. The moment you do this it ruins your life. It can affect your job, it can affect your reputation, it can even put you in jail. And if you are thinking about killing yourself you need to stop and think. Is this really necessary? How will my parents feel? and most importantly, Is it the right thing to do?
This is for parents to view if they suspect their child is being bullied.
If you know your child is being bullied then you need to know this exercise.
First pretend you are the bully
Then make your child practice saying "STOP!" In a firm tone.
A bully's main objective is to make the victim mad. If your child doesn't get mad then he or she will stop.
For kids to try
Another good strategy is to look at them and say "PFFFFFT!" And move your hand like you are shooing a fly.
Another one, similar to that one, is to act like you don't hear anything. Ignoring is one of the best strategies you can use.
Also most adults recommend walking away. I wouldn't be telling you this if I didn't know they worked.
Never listen to strategies that tell you to carry a blade. You may get the bullies off your back but you may also get arrested. Also no one will want to be your friend if you carry a blade. Trust me a blade is a total friend repellent. (It could also get you kicked out of school.)
If it's a verbal bully, take the insult as a compliment then that will confuse the bully. Also here's an example of another strategy. "Hey stupid how you been?" "Why are you so mean to me?" "Cause it's fun." "Why is it fun?" "Cause I like to see you cry." "Why do you like to see me cry?" "Cause it's fun." "Why is it fun?" "IT JUST IS!" "I know but why is it?" This is a strategy that works on a verbal bully or possibly physical. You annoy the bully until he or she gets so mad he or she quits. If he or she does it again then do the same thing over and over again. Here is a video with real kids, who know they have been bullied, and are trying to tell people how important it is. President Obama and Michelle Obama know how important it is as well.
You see even President Obama recognizes how important this is!!!
For Teachers and Educators
TEACH: Shaping the Future of the Teaching Profession. Top 5 Ways Educators Can Stop Bullies Posted A new documentary film, “BULLY,” follows several students to show how bullying happens in schools—and how educators often struggle to put a stop to it. A safe and supportive school climate can be one of the best tools in preventing bullying. Whether it’s the classroom, the cafeteria, the library, the restrooms, on the bus, or on the playground, children need to feel safe—or they can’t focus on learning. Working together, everyone at school can help create a climate where bullying is not acceptable.
Below are five tips to help teachers, administrators and other school personnel prevent bullying from occurring in school, as well as how to respond when it happens. The information comes from the recently re-launched federal website www.StopBullying.gov. Visit the new site for even more valuable resources for teachers, parents and students.
1. Create a Safe and Supportive Environment
Establish a culture of inclusion and respect that welcomes all students Monitor bullying “hot spots” in and around the building. Set a tone of respect in the classroom.
2. Manage Classrooms to Prevent Bullying
Develop rules with students so they set their own climate of respect and responsibility, and reinforce the rules by making expectations clear and keeping requests simple, direct and specific.
3. Stop Bullying on the Spot
Intervene immediately. It’s OK to get another adult to help. Don’t talk to the kids involved together, only separately, and don’t make the kids involved apologize or patch up relations on the spot.
4. Find Out What Happened
Get the facts, keep all the children involved separate, listen without blaming and don’t call the act “bullying” while you are trying to understand what happened.
5. Support the Kids Involved
All kids involved in bullying—whether they are bullied, bully others, or see bullying—can be affected. It is important to support all kids involved to make sure the bullying doesn’t continue and effects can be minimized.
The following information comes from http://www.stopbullying.gov and addresses peer mediation:
TEACH: Shaping the Future of the Teaching Profession. Top 5 Ways Educators Can Stop Bullies Posted A new documentary film, “BULLY,” follows several students to show how bullying happens in schools—and how educators often struggle to put a stop to it. A safe and supportive school climate can be one of the best tools in preventing bullying. Whether it’s the classroom, the cafeteria, the library, the restrooms, on the bus, or on the playground, children need to feel safe—or they can’t focus on learning. Working together, everyone at school can help create a climate where bullying is not acceptable.
Below are five tips to help teachers, administrators and other school personnel prevent bullying from occurring in school, as well as how to respond when it happens. The information comes from the recently re-launched federal website www.StopBullying.gov. Visit the new site for even more valuable resources for teachers, parents and students.
1. Create a Safe and Supportive Environment
Establish a culture of inclusion and respect that welcomes all students Monitor bullying “hot spots” in and around the building. Set a tone of respect in the classroom.
2. Manage Classrooms to Prevent Bullying
Develop rules with students so they set their own climate of respect and responsibility, and reinforce the rules by making expectations clear and keeping requests simple, direct and specific.
3. Stop Bullying on the Spot
Intervene immediately. It’s OK to get another adult to help. Don’t talk to the kids involved together, only separately, and don’t make the kids involved apologize or patch up relations on the spot.
4. Find Out What Happened
Get the facts, keep all the children involved separate, listen without blaming and don’t call the act “bullying” while you are trying to understand what happened.
5. Support the Kids Involved
All kids involved in bullying—whether they are bullied, bully others, or see bullying—can be affected. It is important to support all kids involved to make sure the bullying doesn’t continue and effects can be minimized.
The following information comes from http://www.stopbullying.gov and addresses peer mediation:
- Conflict resolution and peer mediation are common strategies for dealing with conflicts among students. Many schools also use peer mediation and conflict resolution to address bullying problems, but this is not recommended. Why?
• Bullying is a form of victimization, not conflict. It is no more a “conflict” than are child abuse or domestic violence.
• Mediating a bullying incident may send inappropriate messages to the students who are involved (such as, “You are both partly right and partly wrong,” or “We need to work out this conflict between you”). The appropriate message to the child who is bullied should be, “No one deserves to be bullied, and we are going to do everything we can to stop it.” The message for children who bully should be, “Your behavior is inappropriate and must be stopped.”
• Mediation may further victimize a child who has been bullied. It may be very upsetting for a child who has been bullied to face his or her tormenter in mediation.
• There is no evidence to indicate that conflict resolution or peer mediation is effective in stopping bullying.
- Conflict resolution and peer mediation are common strategies for dealing with conflicts among students. Many schools also use peer mediation and conflict resolution to address bullying problems, but this is not recommended. Why?